Everyone has one...

Everyone has one. Most people defiantly have more then one. This has likely shaped your life and has determined, in some sense, who you want to be. This could have some play on where you are at in your life currently. Without a doubt did this create memories that you would never be able to erase from your life, but sometimes wish that you could. Anyone want to take a guess?

Chris and I have been having this interesting discussion about remaining friends with your ex-girlfriend. If you would have asked me several months ago, my answer to this discussion was probably different. I use to think that two adults who realize that things weren't working out in the romantic sense could be civil enough to remain friends. I tried this. I tried this with Adam.

After two years of many ups and downs, I made a promise to myself. I told myself that I wasn't going to let anyone into my life that was a negative influence. This didn't stop at Adam but also included Maz. Adam, somehow, was easier to let go of...although I couldn't really offer you a sane explanation for this. I wrote Adam a letter and said my final goodbye.

Chris has a similar situation with his ex-girlfriend (with a few twists). Breaking up last year, Chris and his ex have gone back in forth just like Adam and I did. Knowing it wouldn't work, they continued to try (maybe half-assed, but still trying). They have Lucy. I have never realized how much a dog could be like a child - sharing custody, still talking because the dog is in both of your lives. I feel like a step-mom.

Jealousy has nothing to do with this at all. I am very confident that Chris and I are happy together. But, is it fair? Is it fair that I have to share him with someone that had her chance? Is it unreasonable to hope that she wouldn't have a minute of his time, a second of his thoughts?